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When You Know, You Know

20150507_180518Often I give myself a hard time for not doing more, not exercising more, not picking up new activities, trying, exploring. I thought it was me being shy or lazy. When I commit to something, I follow through, always. Knowing that I think twice, or a hundred times, before committing to anything.

I realized lately that this is incorrect. I commit plenty, and because the commitments become part of my lifestyle I forget I am already doing plenty. We tend to forget the things we are already used to doing and we overlook our progress, our success.

I realized the no matter how shy I think I am, or was, and no matter how I feel about things like confrontation or embarrassment, when it comes to following the important things in life at any cost, I seem to come through.

For example, when I met my husband 10 years ago, I was so shy with guys that in a previous 4 year relationship I almost never called or texted first, I was so shy and insecure that I would never take the first step, never kiss first or do anything. But that day that I saw him, standing there smiling that amazing genuine smile, I just knew he was the ONE. So I asked my friend to introduce us and from that moment on I did many of the firsts and every day I grew to love him more and more, and here we are 10 years later and I still thank the universe for this amazing gift every day. What I did, went against everything that I was but I did it because I just knew.

Another example is my home. For years we had a dream of our perfect home. We both longed for  a home, not a house, but a home. A place where you feel happy, safe, secure. A place to go back to no matter where you are or how long you’ve been gone. A place where no matter what happened to you, you feel comforted and at peace. For two and a half years we looked at listings and viewed houses and nothing came close. Until one day a listing came up.

The moment I saw it I just knew. I insisted we go see it right away. And when we walked on the property, I did not only see my home, but I saw a whole family too. Normally, I am the kind of person who likes to think things over, weight all the options, have all the information. I like to take my time when making a decision. When it came to this house, it was ours two weeks later, no thinking or fussing. And that included a bidding war. I was told that the house was sold and I should keep looking. I just knew this is not the case. I could not comprehend the idea because in my heart and soul this was already my home. So I called back and gave another offer and with a little convincing, it was ours.

Every time I had to get out of my comfort zone because my intuition told me so, I did. Think back, how many of these moments can you remember? How many decisions and commitments did you make that changed your life forever and you rarely think about them now?

Never give yourself a hard time for not doing something, because you do the things that count.

I would so love hearing your story about a life changing moment or decision, please share below.

Yours,

Fanya

Beating overwhelm and finding peace

20150419_112153In today’s modern world overwhelm just seems to creep on us from all directions without notice. The inbox fills at an astounding rate, the to do list just seems to grow and grow on top of everything we are already doing and the mind becomes constantly busy with the all the thing we need to do.

This past month was just a build up of all kinds of noise and distractions for me and for a moment there I felt like I lost myself in it all. With bliss as my number one goal right now, here is what I did to start clearing it up:

  • All day long I remind myself to finding something to thank for. Which is becoming easier with the beautiful month of May. I am grateful for all the beautiful flowers around, for my health, my family, the little hummingbirds buzzing around, the sun, every little things that sparks an inner and outer smile.
  • I force myself to take few minutes a day for mindfulness meditation. It is amazing what just a few minutes of being present and giving the brain a break can do for you, every time it amazes me what a difference it makes.
  • I do my best to not get upset with myself for not accomplishing something, we are exactly where we need to be in life and celebrating the little accomplishments is much more productive than thinking about what we did not do.
  • I allow myself as many breaks as I need to go outside into my garden, go for a walk, or just sit there and do nothing. A rested brain will accomplish so much more than a tired one.
  • I have me time at the end of the day for at least 1-2 hours to do what I want like watch a movie, a show, play a game, walk, check on my greenhouse, etc. Deep sleep seems to come easier when I have a break before bed.
  • I take a minute when I get into bed to say thanks and to visualize the few things I want accomplished the next day. This is not list building or thinking about what I did not do. It goes more like this: “Tomorrow I would like to… 1, 2, 3”, I try to picture it completed, and then I let it go and go to sleep. I find that if you visualize the several things you want to accomplish tomorrow they tend to get done.

What do you do to overcome overwhelm? Please share in the comments below I would love to hear from you.

Have a wonderful blissful day!