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Becoming a Highly Effective Person Challenge – Review

Good morning 🙂

Thailand 5The next two weeks will be all about review of how the new habits settled, adjust if necessary and try  again.

The only way to fail in habit creation is to not do it, so no matter how you did, as long as you tried, there are no failures here.

Here is my initial review of these past 6 weeks.

New habit #1 – Drinking a cup of clean water with good salt first thing in the morning

This one was the easiest one for me, other than a day or two where i rushed out the door and forgot, I followed this habit every day for the past 6 weeks and I feel this one is a success.

The results of this are incredible too. My memory improved greatly and it continues too. This is an amazing shift for me since I noticed quite a decline in my memory over the last couple of years.

I also feel more energized, happy, positive and hydrated during the day even if I forget to drink during the work day.

How did this affect you? Share your progress in the comments below.

New habit #2 – Daily meditation

This one seems to be really challenging for me.  I tried mid day, evening and night meditation (as I rush out to work in the mornings I haven’t been able to try morning meditations yet). I seem to forget often to do it, or just have trouble sticking to it.

When I did meditate, I was happier, more positive, nothing bothered me, my brain was crystal clear, I could focus better, be more productive and much more.

So why is it that this habit is so hard to implement? Maybe it is my approach.

So for the next two weeks, I will schedule my meditation into my day, I will actually put it in my schedule with a reminder and see if this helps me keep up with it.

Did you succeed in implementing this one? If so, what did you do to help you stick with it?

New habit #3 – Morning gratitude

This one was a little challenging as well. I am not much for a morning person, my energy kicks in late in the evening and lasts through most of the night if I’d let it. I am a true night owl, so remembering to do something first thing when I open my eyes to an alarm clock was difficult.

When I didn’t remember first thing in the morning I remembered later. But closer to the end of the first week I decided to help myself, I did a little sign that says “Thank you” and hang it in my bedroom and I see it every morning and now I remember to say thanks every day.

Now that it is spring, it is easier to remember, there is so much to be grateful for. I wake up and see the mulberry tree outside my window covered with amazing large hanging flowers and I remember to be thankful. I go outside and see all the flowers and the sun on lucky days and I say my thanks.

So this one is also a success, and it helps me feel so fortunate. No matter how small or big the subject is, it makes me realize I have so much to be thankful for and I just feel blissful.

 

How did your past 6 weeks go? Did you succeed in incorporating these new habits? If not, how will you adjust them in order to incorporate them into your life?

Remember, the only way to fail is not to do anything in the first place. So go on and add love and bliss into your life and celebrate every little success.

Love,

Fanya

Becoming a Highly Effective Person Challenge – Weeks 5 and 6

I was laying in bed last night and I cannot stop thinking about what it is that makes it so easy to adopt one habit while so hard to adopt another. The first habit, drinking a glass of water with Himalayan salt every morning, stuck like glue and rarely do I miss it and only if many unexpected things happen first thing in the morning. While the second habit, meditating for a few minutes a day is a daily struggle.

First I thought it might be the time commitment, but quickly dismissed it. Who doesn’t have 1-10 minutes a day to make their whole life better? We spend much more than that doing things that add no value to our lives like checking other people’s Facebook status, playing a game, watching TV, etc.

Then I thought maybe it is hard to do? But from my experience so far with meditation, it is very easy to do, in fact you cannot go wrong. There is no set time in the day no one specific way to do it, there is an unlimited number of ways.

I then thought maybe it is because it is not scheduled and therefore forgotten, but even when I put it in my schedule and have reminders there is a resistance.

I realized then that it is the ego’s way to keep us in stuck. The ego, that part of you who decides who you are based on the environment and others’ opinion, the part that so hard tries to suppress the real you is afraid you will break free and abandon it and so it is making it as hard as possible to adopt habits that are great for your true self in the long run.

And with this realization I got a new push to commit to meditation and I hope you will too.

So while we try to make that habit stick, the new habit for weeks 5 and 6 will be a simple one but a very powerful one. The habit of gratitude.

For the next two weeks, every morning when we wake up we will say thanks for at least 3 things. Real thanks, feeling how thankful we are for these items, people, events, etc. Because no matter how close or far away from your life goals you are, there are always at least three things to be grateful for.Your health, your family, your friends, the amazing world around us, the clean water you are drinking, the food you are eating, the job you enjoy, the roof over your head, the list is endless. It can be as little or as big as you like. You can say thanks in your head or write it down, experiment.

When you are grateful for what you already have, you will attract so much more to be grateful for and you will be so much happier once you realize how many amazing things you already have in your life. It will bring your focus to the now.

If you like this post, please leave a comment below. Share what you are grateful for. Or share it with a friend to remind them of all the things they can be grateful for.

Until next time, be happy.

Becoming a Highly Effective Person Challenge – Week 4

How are you? How are you feeling after adding meditation to your routine? 20150221_123951

If you are having trouble sticking to it, you are not alone. I too am having trouble remembering to meditate everyday. Even so, I see a great change even from the few meditations I do complete.

Do not be discouraged, establishing new habits takes at least a couple of weeks, and once achieved you can maintain them for a lifetime of greatness.

On the days I meditate I find that I feel a lot more clear, calm, focused and over happy. Happiness that is harder to shake and moods that are harder to ruin. I am sometimes amazed at the fog I spend some days in and the change a simple several meditation makes. It might instant or take a few hours but the fog clears.

If you haven’t yet, I hope you dive in and try to meditate and build this habit with me so that we can build a better future for all.

In hopes this will make you smile, flowers always make me smile, these flowers in the picture here were my gardens gift to me.

Becoming a Highly Effective Person Challenge – Weeks 3 and 4

Goblins Meditate TooWelcome to weeks 3 and 4 of the challenge to develop amazing habits and becoming a highly effective person.

How did your first two weeks go? Did you form the habit of drinking water every morning before anything else? I knew you will 🙂 How does it feel?

Weeks 3 and 4 are going to be about incorporating daily meditation into our lives. Meditation in any form and for any length of time is a great addition to anyone’s day. It helps you:

  • Clear your mind, improves your brain function and helps you focus
  • Reduce and eliminate stress and anxiety
  • Rebuild your body and slow down aging
  • Expand your awareness and helps you appreciate life and all that is in it more
  • Helps you sleep better
  • Helps your metabolism and immune system improve
  • etc, etc, etc.

You get the point, it can only help.

I know that many people struggle with meditation, me included. I believe this is mostly the case because we think there is a specific way to do it and we must be doing it wrong. Well, I am here to tell you that there is no wrong way. If you take even a few minutes and relax without distraction, you meditated.

You can meditate sitting on the floor, on a chair, on your bed, on a pillow, laying down, what ever way you feel comfortable as long as you do not fall asleep in the process. You can meditate first thing in the morning, in the afternoon, or before you go to sleep, you really need to find when it feels right for you.

There are many kinds of meditation, some work on specific things, some help you focus, others help you relax and just be. The key is to experiment with many and keep the ones you like for when they feel right. Different meditations can be used in different days or periods of your life.

There are great apps out there for meditation, there are a couple free ones that I just downloaded to experiment with (Calm and Sattva available for Android and iPhones). There are also countless guided meditations on YouTube and online in general (Google is your friend). There is also unlimited sound tracks of the ocean, the jungle, whatever place makes you feel at peace.

Or, you can simply start meditating like this:

  1. Go to a quite place;
  2. Find a comfortable position;
  3. Close your eyes;
  4. Take five deep breathes through the nose and exhale through the mouth. Make these as slow as possible and pause for a few seconds before exhaling.
  5. Breath normally and start a mental scan of your body (from head to toe or the opposite way whichever feels more natural for you) just noticing how each part feels without really thinking about it. If anything feels tight or uncomfortable breath into it with your mind for a few breaths and move on.
  6. When you are done with the scan. If you are just starting to meditate and feel like your mind is very distracted, you can keep you attention on your breathe by counting. You can count one for inhale and two for exhale and go back to one and two. Or you can breath one for inhale and one for exhale and go up to ten and then start from one again or count down from ten. If you feel comfortable, you can just focus on your breath without counting.
  7. This should easily take you five minutes.
  8. Now open your eyes, feel the relaxation and repeat the next day.

Which ever way you choose to try it first, lets take this challenge and meditate at least once daily for at least 5 minutes for the next two weeks.

Lots of Love,

Fanya